Thursday, October 2, 2008

Take a deep breath...and move on...

Just wanted to bring everyone up to date about what is going on with the adoption. After many prayers, emails with lots and lots of very helpful people (some of whom are new friends—isn’t that just like God, bringing blessings out of a crazy sad situation?), phone calls to various adoption agencies and more prayers, we are moving on. Thank all of you so very, very much for your prayers and good wishes—we KNOW they have carried us through this whole situation.

We have applied and been accepted to a new agency, CSS, and we are very happy with this decision. This agency has a great reputation, they are small, and they are honestly head and shoulders above our old agency in terms of information they are able to give us just over the phone in two conversations. They also have some significant experience in working with people who have left our agency. We have learned in this process that, like everything else, there are some good agencies out there, there are some not so good ones, and there are agencies that were good in the past but are having serious problems now. When you’re dealing with Russia, like my friend Mike says, it is almost always about “who” you know, and whether or not they know you and trust you. We feel like we have that now where we didn’t with our old agency. I’m not going to use this space to bash our old agency here, and, quite frankly, I’m ready to let all of that negative energy just go now so that we can move forward positively. If any of you have questions, though, about this process, I am glad to answer them.

We do have to redo our paperwork, but not all of it (thank you, God!) Our social worker can update our original homestudy, and we already have our immigration approval, so it is just a matter of getting things redone and up to speed. We will have to redo our fingerprints, but we would have had to do that anyway as much of our original paperwork is now coming up on being nearly a year old. I’m focused on being much more active and proactive this time, on keeping better track of things, and on being in better contact with people who have been through this process recently.

So---we have hope, which is a very good thing. On a similar note, my Drury class is going really well. Only 11 students (compared with like 130 last semester at MSU and in my online class), and it’s Russian History! On top of that, they’re non-traditional students—they actually read the books, they come with questions, they have good topics for the research paper—what more can I ask for here. The only real problem now is that I feel like I should be doing more, since I do have a bunch of time where I’m not all that busy. With more expenses down the road, I’m seriously considering a part-time job doing something—not teaching, perhaps, but I’m open at this point. Please keep me in your prayers about wisdom in making a decision here.

One sad note—our male kitty, Asher, is very sick. We’ve been treating his a sore in his mouth with antibiotics for about 2 weeks, but a trip to the vet yesterday revealed ours and our vet’s worst fears—he has cancer. It’s not going to get any better, and so we’re sadly telling him goodbye.

Again, thank you all for all of your prayers and support---I’m looking forward to October being a much better month than September was!!

Much love

12 comments:

Kristine and John said...

Oh, I am so sorry about your kitty. Our kitty died this summer and it was heartbreaking...

I am happy for you on the new change! It must be a relief...it was for me...

Well, we are back in the saddle again together headed for the same place! Come on partner! ;D

Troy and Rachel said...

Carolynn, We lost a dog to mouth cancer (in her jaw) about 4 years ago and it still is hard a times. Our pets are like members of the family and I'l be thinking about you and your precious Asher.

Congrats on the decision you made to change agencies. you sound so upbeat about it, like there is new hope. I'll be looking forward to hearing more great news about the adoption.

Kim Abraham said...

So sorry to hear about your cat. :(

Congrats on your big move. We had to change agencies too (may have been the same one) and CSS was at the top of our list. I hope things move quickly for you now!

Becky and Keith said...

I'm so sorry about your little kittie - it is never easy.

CONGRATS on the big change! I look forward to following along and seeing all of the good that is headed your way!

Jackie said...

Congratulations on your decision! I too agree CSS was at the top of our list as well. I just know you are going to breeze through all of that paperwork!

Tiger and Kar said...

Hi & welcome to the CSS family! I saw your message on our Yahoo group today & had to stop by your blog to offer some encouragement. We brought our son home in May. Our experience with CSS was nothing short of WONDERFUL and they continue to help us now that Ilya is home. Feel free to stop by our blog anytime and please let me know if you have any questions.

I am so sorry to hear about your kitty. We have 4 pets (2 dog, 2 cats0 and they are truly members of our family. I know this is a difficult time for you but know you're in our thoughts & prayers.

Best of luck and again, welcome to our small CSS family!

Karyn in VA

votemom said...

i'm glad you are moving on, or rather, that God is movning you on.

i'm the old mom who adopted two little ones. feel free to email me at votemom@yahoo.com if you want to connect.

our journey was very hard and very long and had an ending i could never have predicted in a zillion years.

God is funny that way. i'm looking forward to hearing what surprises He has in store for you too!

Craig and Phyllis said...

We will be praying that your adoption will proceed with a wonderful little girl at the end! How are the shingles? Are you feeling better? Sorry about your kitty.

Dede said...

I'm glad to hear that you decided to make the switch to CSS. You are definitely in good hands with them! I hope everything moves quickly for you.

Sorry to hear about your kitty. It's hard to lose a pet. We had to say goodbye to our dog of 16 years a few months ago. :-(

Susan and Randy said...

Just wanted to let you know I found your blog through Michelle's blog. We left CHI (not sure who you were with) in Oct 07 and moved to CSS that month. We were home with our son Artem by April 2008. It was the BEST decision we have ever made.

Good luck with the paperwork updates and welcome to the CSS family.

Tina in CT said...

I just read your comment on my daughter's blog entry about the homeless kitten. I was sorry to read that you lost your kitty to cancer. It is horrible losing a beloved pet as I lost my sweet dachshund last March (Friday the 13) and miss her terribly.

Joy said...

I am so glad that you commented on my blog. I have followed so many different blogs that have used CSS. I just know your referral is coming soon.
Joy